I couldn’t tell you when I officially “met” Luke. It just seemed like I’d known him all my life, although in reality it was probably only about 5 or 6 years. But that’s how he treated people, as if they were lifelong friends right from the get-go. He was warm, welcoming, kind, handsome, sweet, always looking for the humor. Every time I saw him, he would be so happy to see me, and give me the biggest hug, as if we were dear old souls that hadn’t seen each other in TOO long! And I would feel so so at home with him, like I belonged there. It meant a lot to me, as I didn’t have many genuine friends, especially in the theater environment. He would pull me in as if sharing a secret, eyebrows a-wiggling, but then say the silliest things that would make me hysterically laugh. Just like his mom, he was such a light, loving presence wherever he went, that I witnessed people naturally gravitate to him every time he walked into the room. He was always surrounded by people of all ages, smiling and laughing. You couldn’t help but be pulled in too, and want to be, or go, wherever he was. He was so passionate and had such a vision for a better world and country for his daughter. I constantly wonder about the changes and effect he would have had, because he would have been a force of nature. I miss his warmth, his light, but most of all I miss the way he made me feel – welcomed, loved, and part of his life. It was a such a powerful, meaningful thing to me, and, in effect, I inevitably felt like I lost a brother. That kind of impact left a huge imprint on me that I will never ever forget.
A Heart Full of Love
I don’t have a specific story to share, but I hope you know that your Dad had so much love in his heart, and I know he passed that on to you Lucy. He was always ready to help when someone asked, or comfort when someone needed it. Sending you love to you always.
Ripples Through Life
I first met Luke when Musicals at Richter was rehearsing Scrooge. It was the first indoor production for MAR and Luke had come to take the part of young Scrooge. I was quite amazed at how easily he learned the part and his fabulous voice. After the rehearsal we spoke briefly in the dressing room. I wasn’t sure how he’d react to a minor principle, so I just mentioned that it was obvious he wasn’t a neophyte. He laughed, and I added that it was a privilege to perform in the show with these talented people. Luke sang his duet with Caitlin which the house loved.
A few years later I was at a celebration of Frank Jesenky’s life. Luke saw me and greeted me with that smile and said, “It’s great to see you my friend.” I didn’t think he’d remember me from Adam. We kept in touch on Facebook and then I read about his tragic passing.
People speak about the ripples each life produces. Luke truly proved that we can touch many with simple and thoughtful gestures or words.
Always Encouraging
The first time I saw Luke was on his highlight video where he immediately overwhelmed me with his gorgeous, mature voice at such a young age. We were preparing to do a show and Juliette sent me the link. So when I met him in person, I felt like I was meeting a star. And I was. I only knew Luke for a few years, but am deeply grateful for the friendship. The most vivid memory that always comes to me was that extended time during the show when it was just he and I in the dressing room. He was endlessly generous and encouraging. We talked about sports and family and future – and of course theater. As uniquely gifted as he was, he was always insistent on deflecting any compliments and turning it around back on me. I was honored to be part of a few very special family events – but I treasure those moments in that awful dressing room. Heaven’s blessings are yours now……
Luke’s Influence
In the summer of 2017, I posted a request for book recommendations on Facebook. Luke sent me a private message in early August checking in on me, my young daughter, and wife…and to throw a few book recommendations my way. I often re-read this short Facebook messenger exchange, but that is not the point of this story.
Luke and I are on different ends of the political continuum, but I always felt we shared a similar openness to opposing ideas and healthy, respectful debate…viewing both as opportunities for expanding our personal lens and perspective. In that spirit, Luke passionately recommended a book written by a conservative US senator that he said had a profound influence on him as a father and young adult…he wanted to share it with me in hopes that I might be similarly impacted. I would never have sought this book out on my own due to my liberal/progressive leanings, but after Luke’s passing, I felt deeply compelled to read it in hopes of absorbing and implementing its lessons…it felt like a way to connect with Luke and continue to learn from him.
I loved the book. I gleaned many valuable insights that have broadened my worldview. What is most meaningful to me, however, is that this has shown me how Luke’s influence continues to ripple out into the world. My expanded perspective through his recommendation has impacted those in my circle, which subsequently impacts their circles, and so on. I love the idea that, in this way, Luke continues to positively influence those who know and love him, as well as those he never met.
Luke- you persist. You will always be an integral part of all of us.
I miss you, my friend.
Smile
When Luke smiled all seemed ok. With the world. I have more to say, but I must start with this. Keep shining your smile down upon us Luke.
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The “farting song”
The “farting song” at Stanford Rec. I wasn’t there but Luke, Spencer and Devin entered the talent show, showing off their farting skills with their armpits, stomach and legs, and I believe they won!
Dear Luke – Letter 1
Dear Luke,
It was a perfect summer night. The stars were out, the sky clear. There was a slight breeze but the the temperature was just right. It was one of those summer nights where any person would find themselves sitting outside for the evening perfectly content. Dusk had just began to fall and you could see a sliver of sunlight in the distance, painted across the golf course.
I was sitting in a rehearsal room of the big white house on top of the hill next to the theater. The lights were off and I was sitting in the dark. I don’t know why. I was in tech for Sound of Music. The other cast was onstage rehearsing and I suppose the kids in my cast were playing hide and seek outside, or sitting and watching the others perform.
All I remember was that I was sitting alone, in darkness, when you first came into my life.
And sure enough, it was the light I needed.
Juliette, your mother, rounded the corner first. I remember immediately feeling the sensation of excitement at the simple fact that Juliette was in the room. It’s a feeling I think I share with many people in this world. As you know very well, when your mother enters a room, it immediately becomes warm and full of life and a place that may feel incredibly unknown feels like home.
Spencer was not around, but you came through the doorway holding two wooden swords. If my memory holds true, you were debating something, which comes to no surprise. Your mother cut you off, seeing me sitting alone and immediately introduced us.
“Jack! Have you met my son Luke?” She said.
“… No… Hi!” I said hesitantly.
“Hi, I’m Luke!” you said.
Your mother had to run backstage, her scene was coming up. But after overseeing the initial meeting, she left swiftly with a smile.
A slight pause. We’re both sitting. In a dark room.
“Want to play?” you said, handing me one of your wooden swords.
I paused. Looking at the wooden sword and then at you. Your were slightly taller. Your muscles certainly bigger, and it was clear you were more experienced in athleticism than I was. (And let it be known that none of those facts ever changed as we grew up.) I was going to fail, I knew it. It probably wouldn’t be any fun for you. Still, what was I doing? I was just sitting, in a dark room, waiting for the night to be over. I wasn’t sad about that. I wasn’t happy. It was just another night.
I took a breath.
“I don’t know how.” I responded.
“I’ll show you.” You said.
You were determined. Not only to play with toy swords, but to make me play along. There was no way “no” was going to be an answer. (That too, never changed as we grew up.)
“Ok.” I said.
You jumped up and walked to the door, leading outside.
“Follow me.” You said.
We went to the front yard of Richter.
“Rightie or leftie?”
“What?”
“Are you right handed, or left handed?”
“Right.”
“Good. Here, take the sword in your right hand.”
“Ok…”
“Go.”
“Hey!”
You hit me. You hit me in the leg with the sword. It wasn’t hard. It didn’t hurt at all actually. I started to laugh and I hit you back. And then without any instruction or lessons, we began to swing the swords at each other left and right. Neither one trying to one up or hurt the other. Both of us were just having fun. And it was there, on the front lawn of Richter, surrounded by fire flies and the echoes of Rodger’s and Hammerstein’s “Edelweiss”, we played for the very first time, and our friendship began.
Your buddy,
Jack
Push
[posted by Amanda]
I had done just a few shows, and had met Allison in a previous show. I got my first lead role in a show and she was music director so I got to work with her first hand. Once we got about a month into rehearsals, this guy was coming and walking around with Lucy and was just the most perfect parent. He genuinely loved being there for us, his daughter and his love. Watching him and Ally parent together and getting to know him as he pushed me and made me feel so at ease was beyond amazing. I cannot express enough how his beautiful light and his love made me want to be better. Do better. We need more people like him. Do what you love and treat all with open arms, respect and enjoy all that we get. I will forever be changed by this man who I knew for such a short time. Thankfully, he will live on in his beautiful daughter and his loving fiancé. Gone but never ever forgotten. ❤️
Thoughtful Surprises
[posted by Emily Risley]
Luke was the most thoughtful person I know. He would always think of others in ways that would never occur to me. On days when I would need it most, almost as if he knew, he would text me to hang out or send a video of an amazing singer he wanted me to hear or picture memory. One of the most memorable times was during his last semester at CUA. I was working in Campus Ministry, and Luke would come by my office quite often to say hi. We were both super busy, and he would sometimes stop by when I was out. One of these times, I came back to the most “Luke” thing ever: a message made out of sticky notes on my computer. I took a picture and hold it in my heart always. I am so amazed that God gave me such an incredible friend. I feel his presence every day, and am reminded of him every time I see a sticky note.
Pre-school Friends
[posted by Pattie Camillone]
We met Luke, Spencer, Juliette and Patrick when our son Daniel was enrolled at The Sunshine School in Pawling, NY – 1999. Luke and Daniel were age 3 at the time. Juliette and myself became friends immediately. Being the moms of two boys & growing up in the restaurant business we immediately had a connection. In turn, our boys became friends. We had lots of playdates and social gatherings. Our boys always got along so well. They would spend hours playing with Thomas the Tank trains at our house or swimming in the pool at Luke’s. Luke and Daniel had similar personalities – two really sweet boys. Lots of patience and kindness between the two of them, perfect brothers to two younger siblings Spencer & Gregory. I love the memories of those early years, I look back on them and cherish those times.
I know I have some photos from those days, when I come across them I will certainly post them here.
















